Do you remember those first days of school each year or do you remember your first day on a job? You walk into the building and/or classroom and before you are lots of people you have never seen before. Hopefully you were able to get to know some of the people there and become more than classmates or coworkers. During those times or even now have you ever wanted to be popular. Was one of your reason to be popular because you hoped that some of your problems will go away if you weren't accepted?
For various reasons I sometimes find it hard to relate with people. Three major reasons why I am slower to relate are: I'm a introvert and a fraternal twin and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. In regards to meeting people, as a introvert and a twin I always had the luxury of knowing I always had someone close by whether she was standing next to me or near by in the building. If I met people or not I'd always have her but for the most part having her in the background took away any anxiety that I might of had. Also, I didn't have to work hard to meet people because my uniqueness as a twin drew enough attention. Now I'm not saying that I ever was in a popular group - I wasn't, and I tend to lean toward being on the sidelines. When I find myself alone I'm usually okay with that and am content during the times I'm alone. My sister and I were rarely in the same classes but I knew she was somewhere in the building or later during our college days she was in the dorm next door. I found that good enough. With these and the peace of mind & conviction of my faith I was/am pleased to not be in the majority.
I recognize that these attributes have both defined and protected me. Since I didn't care to be accepted or defined by the popular crowd I didn't/don't relying on copying others or find myself in extra mischief following the popular crowd.
Today's' quote of the day made me think. "February 21 - Are you part of the inn crowd or are you one of the stable few?" These are some of my thoughts to this quote:
Popularity and Inn crowds are not innately bad. They are only bad if you find yourself losing your compass for staying on the right path. If being part of that crowd robes us of who we really are and our divine potential then we should think twice about who we are hanging around with. We should be trying to be reliable and true to ourselves. The quote infers that we can be included in and as "one of the stable few."
So how do you find friends in a crowd?
1.) We will always have the reassurance of a brother, our Savior Jesus Christ, if we accept and follow Him. He loves and likes each of us. If you keep those thoughts in the front of your memory then you should always be able to know you are never alone. He will be with you.
2.) Accept and like who you are and be true to yourself. If you are doing something that you want to change or feel bad about then don't beat yourself up - pray & change. Don't jeopardize your happiness by going into a place or doing something that you know you'd be extremely uncomfortable about.
3.) If you want some extra friends don't sit in your rival team's side of the stadium in your teams full colors and gear -sit on your side!
4.) Smile.
5.) When someone asks you, "How you're doing?" ask right back, "How about you?" Then ask them another question in response to what they said.
6.) Don't expose yourself enough to get hurt but be willing to share. You'll then find yourself able to gently push your safety net away and be ready to leave the wall of wall flowers and go talk to more people.
7.) Repeat number five and six as much as you can - talk to people.
8.) Smile again and try to make someone else smile. You'll feel better if you do.
I recognize that these attributes have both defined and protected me. Since I didn't care to be accepted or defined by the popular crowd I didn't/don't relying on copying others or find myself in extra mischief following the popular crowd.
Today's' quote of the day made me think. "February 21 - Are you part of the inn crowd or are you one of the stable few?" These are some of my thoughts to this quote:
Popularity and Inn crowds are not innately bad. They are only bad if you find yourself losing your compass for staying on the right path. If being part of that crowd robes us of who we really are and our divine potential then we should think twice about who we are hanging around with. We should be trying to be reliable and true to ourselves. The quote infers that we can be included in and as "one of the stable few."
So how do you find friends in a crowd?
1.) We will always have the reassurance of a brother, our Savior Jesus Christ, if we accept and follow Him. He loves and likes each of us. If you keep those thoughts in the front of your memory then you should always be able to know you are never alone. He will be with you.
2.) Accept and like who you are and be true to yourself. If you are doing something that you want to change or feel bad about then don't beat yourself up - pray & change. Don't jeopardize your happiness by going into a place or doing something that you know you'd be extremely uncomfortable about.
3.) If you want some extra friends don't sit in your rival team's side of the stadium in your teams full colors and gear -sit on your side!
4.) Smile.
5.) When someone asks you, "How you're doing?" ask right back, "How about you?" Then ask them another question in response to what they said.
6.) Don't expose yourself enough to get hurt but be willing to share. You'll then find yourself able to gently push your safety net away and be ready to leave the wall of wall flowers and go talk to more people.
7.) Repeat number five and six as much as you can - talk to people.
8.) Smile again and try to make someone else smile. You'll feel better if you do.
